Tag Archives: Self-Actualization

How to maintain high self esteem by Steve Pavlina

You can’t become jealous if you maintain high self esteem.

If you begin to feel jealous or envious of others, do not try to control, manipulate, or negotiate with them to appease these feelings. That is a childish and ineffective approach. You will only encourage people to lie to you and hide things from you so they can avoid having to deal with your “Poor me… I’m not good enough… make me feel better about myself” script.

Instead, focus on setting and achieving your own goals. Start with the basics such as simple physical goals (like specific exercise targets) to restore a sense of self control, and then gradually build towards self mastery. Rebuild your sense of self-worth and confidence by asserting control over how you use your time and how you maintain your space. Restore order, cleanliness, and neatness to your home, your workplace, and your body. Create an environment that reinforces the belief that you’re in control and that you’re responsible.

The belief that you are not enough will simply attract proof of such. Prove to yourself that you are enough, not by seeking validation from others but by creating the evidence for yourself. Strive each day to grow towards your potential. If you do that, then others will tend to respect you more, and other high self esteem people will want to connect with you. Hence you will seldom have cause to feel jealous or alone; you will graduate from this problem and move on to more interesting challenges.

~ Steve Pavlina

Remember a time when you felt wonderful.

“Think of a time when you felt wonderful.”

It was the first part of NLP exercise I did, and I had a mental block. I don’t remember or can’t imaging that feeling:-( Rather I can remember when I felt wonderful physically… or mentally, but not entirely wonderful. So now I want to catch this “wonderful” filling moment and remember it.

I felt wonderful when I created this flower. It was spontaneous desire, and I just followed my inspiration.

Ignore everybody and 39 other keys to Creativity


Ignore Everybody: and 39 Other Keys to Creativity by Hugh MacLeod

This is a great book. Author pushes to hear your inner creative voice, be unique, and find your own DOOR.

Below are some quotes that affect and inspired me:

 

“If somebody in your industry is more successful than you, it’s probably because he works harder at it than you. Sure, maybe he’s more inherently talented, more adept at networking, but I don’t consider that an excuse. Over time, that advantage counts for less and less. Which is why the world is full of highly talented, network-savvy, failed mediocrities.”

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“If your business plan depends on suddenly being “discovered” by some big shot, your plan will probably fail. Nobody suddenly discovers anything. Things are made slowly and in pain.”

Read more…

The War of Art: Break Through the Blocks and Win Your Inner Creative Battles

Quotes from the book:

The War of Art: Break Through the Blocks and Win Your Inner Creative Battles ~ by Steven Pressfield

“Most of us have two lives. The life we live, and the unlived life within us. Between the two stands Resistance.”

 

“So if you paralyzed with fear, it’s a good sign. It shows you what you have to do.”

 

I can add that not only fear, but feeling guilty is a good sign too. I feel guilty when I do something personal for myself.
 

“The more Resistance you experience, the more important your unmanifested art/project/enterprise is to you – and the more gratification you will feel when you finally do it.”

 

“Someone once asked Somerset Maugham if he wrote on a schedule or only when struck by inspiration. “I write only when inspiration strikes,” he replied. “Fortunately it strikes every morning at nine o’clock sharp.”"

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Accepting the Self Establishing Values through NLP

“Many people know what they want to have – few what they want to be.”

I’ve tried to find my Core Values in the previous exercise.

Here are 32 questions how to prioritize and establish the Values. Looks very interesting. I will do this exercise next week, and post my results here.

Click and Ask yourself these questions



photo by Alex Koloskov

What do you need for Self-Actualization?

This article by Saul McLeod is very useful for people who want to reach their full potential. But especially it’s very helpful for parents.

Carl Rogers (humanistic psychologist) believed that humans have one basic motive, that is the tendency to self-actualize – i.e. to fulfill one’s potential and achieve the highest level of ‘human-beingness’ we can.
Like a flower that will grow to its full potential if the conditions are right, but which is constrained by its environment, so people will flourish and reach their potential if their environment is good enough.”

“For a person to “grow”, they need an environment that provides them with

- genuineness (openness and self-disclosure),
- acceptance (being seen with unconditional positive regard),
- and empathy (being listened to and understood).

Without these, relationships and healthy personalities will not develop as they should, much like a tree will not grow without sunlight and water.”

The self-concept includes three components:

Self worth (or self-esteem) – what we think about ourselves. Rogers believed feelings of self-worth developed in early childhood and were formed from the interaction of the child with the mother and father.

Self-image – How we see ourselves, which is important to good psychological health. Self-image includes the influence of our body image on inner personality. At a simple level, we might perceive ourselves as a good or bad person, beautiful or ugly. Self-image has an affect on how a person thinks feels and behaves in the world.

Ideal self – This is the person who we would like to be. It consists of our goals and ambitions in life, and is dynamic – i.e. forever changing. The ideal self in childhood is not the ideal self in our teens or late twenties etc.

Carl Rogers believed that every person can achieve their goals, wishes and desires in life.”

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7 reasons why you might fail to become the best in the world…

“7 reasons why you might fail to become the best in the world:

1.) You run out of time,
2.) you run out of money,
3.) you get scared,
4.) you’re not serious about it,
5.) you lose interest or enthusiasm and settle for being mediocre,
6.) you focus on the short term instead of the long,
7.) you pick the wrong thing at which to be the best in the world.”
~Seth Godin, the Dip
Now the main question:-)

How to find the right THING?

Then I will find time, money and everything from 1 to 6 of this list.

I know only a partial answer – it’s inside myself.